Damaged people are dangerous. They know they can survive.
“Being rude is easy. It does not take any effort and is a sign of weakness and insecurity. Kindness shows great self-discipline and strong self esteem. Being kind is not always easy when dealing with rude people. Kindness is a sign of a person who has done a lot of personal work and has come to a great self-understanding and wisdom. Kindness is a sign of STRENGTH.”
That said, one must understand and appreciate the difference between kindness and compassion, and submission and silence. Sometimes, more can be said and accomplished with quiet compassion and understanding, than any amount of words. But, when one chooses to appear kind out of fear or force, tolerance may instead be a symptom of oppression. It can be easy to forget that, while the capacity for silence and tolerance can be a gift, it can also come with a price.
Making a clever, poignant, meaningful statement at the right time can be very effective. But, in the face of a tough situation that warrants such a statement, carrying out that task can be extremely difficult. Moreover, one must remember that, while, “A smart person knows what to say, a wise person knows whether or not to say it.” These two points may, in fact, best illustrate the sometimes subtle differences that exist between rudeness and assertiveness.
Don’t ever mistake kindness for weakness or tolerance for complacency. For someone may be acting kind, because of your weakness, or may feel silenced and helpless in your presence.